Why is pain love? Free us of all the weight and pain of life. Understanding the pain of lost love and heartbreak can be a tricky road. Drinking to obliterate the memory of a lost love is a classic coping strategy employed by men.
When you love someone deeply, you run the risk of breaking your heart. But life goes on. And so must you. Love means exposing yourself to the pain of being hurt, deeply hurt by someone you trust. Fear are some of those inner forces which rule the individual’s instinct for self preservation.
Love is painful because it creates the way for joy, for ecstasy, for bliss. Love is painful because it transforms you. Love is growth. Love itself does not hurt. You might think that love is painful, because you are vulnerable to this person and might take everything so literally. It's because of the expectations one believes should happen when in love doesn't happen. The onset of disappointment causes the pain when one gives off.