In the best of communication, there is a kind of give and take between talking and listening, a sharing of who is the speaker and who is the listener based on mutual respect and caring about each other’s feelings. Some people who talk a lot are not able to engage in this interactive rhythm, not because they do not care, but because they cannot tolerate the emotions that might emerge as they listen to another person. In fact, in the course of my work as a therapist, I have found that many non-stop talkers actually use their words to stop themselves from knowing what they are feeling.
I love working on my dreams. There aren’t enough hours in a day for me to work on them. When I get up in the morning, my mind is full of anticipation. Today I will open new doors of opportunity. When I lay my head on my pillow at night, I wish I had a few more hours to work on my purpose and plan.
Before you throw in the towel and go back to something safe and far less taxing, ask yourself the following questions:
1. Why did you want to pursue this goal to begin with—and has anything changed?
2. Have you been operating with too much information?
3. Did you set a smart goal?
4. What’s the worst that will happen if you keep going and don’t reach your goal?
5. Are you afraid of succeeding?
6. Are you acting on impulse or emotion instead of thinking things through?
7. Would you enjoy giving a loved one the honest explanation for why you gave up?